Hanging on during hard times.

Hello sweeties, hope yall have been good.

In relationships, everyone at one point or the other passes through hard times; Irrespective of whatever you are passing through right now, its worthy to note that tough times never lasts.

1. When angry don't say anything:  Yes! knowing fully well that anger can beget anything and once a word is spoken it can never be retrieved,so its better to just keep silent. Depending on our temperament, it may be really hard to keep silent, but always put it mind that words can change all what someone has built with his life and even when you have forgotten what you said, the person that is hurt by what you said may never forget.
2. Listen to your partner: It may be really tempting to interfere or cut short someone that is annoying when the person is saying something annoying, its better to just listen because for one, it’s not going to stop them from being annoying, and second, it may put you in a tough spot once people realize that you are not following the conversation. Remember that just because you find someone difficult to deal with, you should not forsake your manners. Listen and respond when it’s appropriate for you to and you will get through the meeting without even breaking a sweat.
   
3.  Excuse yourself: If you feel you can't stand the persons word and you don't want to burst, excuse yourself politely and do something you know would make you feel better.
4. Two people can't be right at the same time: Always have this in mind, sometimes you expect your partner to understand you but in the case that s/he does not then you have to bear the cross of understanding. Accept that you are wrong if you know that would bring peace.
5. Explain yourself in a calm manner: After the person's anger is reduced and when you feel you can be heard then explain yourself.
6. Change your mindset: A simple way for you to deal with unreasonable people is to change your mindset. Try to stop thinking of yourself as a victim and instead, focus on why this person irritates you so. Perhaps it is just the way you tend to react to certain personality types. When you look at the situation from a third party’s perspective, you may just understand why some people rub you the wrong way.
7. Seek counsel: This does not mean you should begin to tell everyone about your relationship, just ask for advice from someone that you know would not lead you astray also you don't need to mention your name, you may just say it happened to someone you know. You can also get an unbiased friend’s opinion. They may be able to shed some light on the situation and help you understand certain things about yourself. Who knows? You may just change your mindset and be more patient when dealing with unreasonable people in the future.  
8. Always remember why you started:  Sometimes it gets so bad that you want out of the relationship, just continue to remember why you started, think well and know what you really want, know whether you heart is in the relationship, if you have positive answers let that be your encouragement. Forgive and be ready to move on.
9. Don't nag and maintain your composure: As hard as this is, always maintain your class, charm and manners. Do not turn into a raging maniac no matter how much you want to. When you are polite and do not exude any signs of anger or frustration, it may just confuse this difficult person and encourage them to react in kind. They will find that no matter how obnoxious they are being, it does not get to you and they will tire of playing the big-man-on-campus card and eventually stop behaving like a prick. Matty swears by this tip and says that you will be surprised at how effective being polite to someone who is being unreasonable is.

 When things are bad, we take comfort in the thought that they could always get worse. And when they are, we find hope in the thought that things are so bad they have to get better. – Malcolm S Forbes

If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. – Mary Engelbreit