It no more a hidden fact that women cheat on their significant other and this has become a matter that gives us concern considering the fact that men don't like their women cheating and when someone you love cheats you, there is a tendency to distrust the next person and guys begin to think all girls are the same.
The reason why women cheat varies from woman to woman. Some do it to payback, some because of lack of satisfaction, some just do it because that's the way they have been. Above all, cheating is not something so good especially when its a woman doing it.
After taking a time out to ask ladies why they cheat on their partner, I decided to come up with a few list of why ladies cheat so men can understand better and stop judging and maybe they can even prove themselves to be worthy of that woman's heart because once you make your woman trust you, and she is secure with the relationship she would have no reason to cheat.
They're doing it as a payback
Some people believe, "What's good for the goose is good for the gander." There are women who seek revenge after they've discovered their man has been unfaithful. This does not mean they cheat so their partner can catch them. When a woman is hurt in her heart, sometimes if she do not do her own she wont get satisfied but the bad thing is if this new guy turns out to be better than her man, she would continue and what started as a result of spite then turns out to be something she enjoys and gets satisfied with.
Most women do this and get away with it because "We're a lot smoother about covering our tracks" and we are overly emotional and have our way of getting away with things so if a woman does not want her boyfriend to know that she is cheating he would never know.
Because they want to
There are other women who, like many men, find themselves struggling with monogamy. They see absolutely nothing wrong with engaging in a lustful night with one guy, and later going home to the man they care about.
Their sexual appetites constantly need to be fed, and they often crave new and exciting experiences. After being with the same partner for years, the intimacy can sometimes grow stale and painfully predictable. This is a nightmare for some ladies. The solution? Spreading the love.
What one guy lacks, the other makes up for
Some women find it hard settling for a man who doesn't quite give her everything she's looking for. If her main boyfriend isn't caring enough, or isn't mind-blowing in the sack, she'll find another guy who is ready and willing to fill the void. It might sound heartless, but to these women, it's all about being practical while ensuring their needs are met.
For fear of being hurt. They think it's a form of protection
Some women cheat as a way of protecting themselves from the emotional balderdash. Women fall in love truly and deeply and most times when they are truly in love, they become vulnerable and this is what men use to their advantage and hurt them. So they have this feeling that when they cheat they wont have to centralize their whole emotions on a man and by that they wont be hurt
"Millennial men are keenly commitment-phobic and want all the perks of being in a relationship without the responsibilities or the commitment." She believes women have no choice but to spread their affections, otherwise they run the risk of constantly being hurt.
It's their only choice
There are other ladies who are too afraid to leave a relationship. This could be for a plethora of reasons. Whether there are children involved, they have a fear of not being loved again, or are at risk for financial instability, they can't pick up and leave. Their compromise? Stepping out with another man.
They no longer respect him
"I think overall, cheating occurs when that 'special' feeling is gone; meaning there were past infidelities and there's no respect."
When respect and trust are gone from a relationship, the relationship is pretty much doomed from there. They're two elements that are paramount to a successful union. Once these women lose respect for their men, they're more open to outside influence.
They were entangled in a friend with benefit zone before they met him and can't stop.
This happens with a lot of women. Before they met their partner they had been with a guy and both of them have been making out as friends with benefit but along the line they fell in love with the guy they are with now.
They would continue with their game because the friend with benefit wont hurt them and is always ready to hear all their stories and whimpering.
Fear of heartbreak:
Some women cheat when their relationship is no longer working and they sense that heartbreak is coming.
No one wants to be hurt and no one wants to be taken unawares. So when they cheat, if they enjoy the new man they break up with the first and if they dont they enjoy both the guys.
Sexually deprivation:
This is another reason why women cheat, when the relationship gets boring and their husband starve them of sex for whatever reason.
Men should understand that women love sex too and want to get satisfied too. Some men do not even know what turns their women on. Wack!!! He climbs her, gets satisfied and gets up.
My friend cheated and got away with it.
Some women are lured into cheating because their clique of friends cheated and got away with it.
The kind of friends your spouse keeps would determine her disposition to you.
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